Choosing life or Forcing life ?

Presently, many films are focusing on the parents forcing their goals and dreams on their children without allowing them to choose their own path. The cases may be so. But here let us spend a minute going deep into the mind of students in this subject.
A parent does not simply force a dream onto his/her child.( note that either positive or negative, there are exceptions). After all they are not strangers who comes to ones life all of a sudden forcing him to do this or that. They know you better than anyone. Even if they dont understand you really, even if they cant see your real passion in life, then again its your mistake. That means you have not opened your mind to them. What happens really is that many parents see their wards outer interest from childhood and decide what will be good for their child. They also check if they can shine in that. The parents mindset is simply like this, they want you to be in safer positions and to do that they often divert you from your most likely path of travel. Remember, only when you travel new paths, you discover things and yourself.
Now, we cant stop with that. let us see the mindset of students too. Some students may have a constant dream and desire about their future. they might have a passion of doing something with their life ahead. But when time comes to make a decision, their parents take it for them and they choose the right path but to another destination he/she have never dream t of.( read the past sentence twice.) Now naturally they get frustrated. But in many other cases, students fix their dreams based on their friends or some others advices and simply refuse to accept their parents decision. The question here is, when they are able to decide on others words, why cant they listen to their parents. This is because of the mental detachment of the parents and their children. This has to be removed. This is an advice to both parents and children.

Now in some cases students do say this reason( they were not allowed to join the course they desired) for creating sympathy among his/her co-students and teachers. They even use this as a weapon at times when they get low marks, when they are restricted any freedom and so on. This causes real trouble. because, something like this when thought affirmatively naturally becomes his/her unconscious thought and may lead their life to disaster. Parents and other elders should really take care of this.
Children at teens are in a very delicate and flexible stage. They are not always matured enough to take decisions. This doesn’t mean their parents should decide. they should be friendly with their children, rather than asking their desires, they should know it by themselves and check the possibility in that field and let them do it provided its really worthy. And children who really wish to become something, will reach that goal eventually no matter whatever field they are put in. So please don’t use this reason as a sensitive sympathy.



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